Insanity/Borderline Personality Disorder
Posted by Danmerica on February 17th, 2014 @ 11:41am in NH
My story is simple enough to start. I ran into an ex I had dated a few years earlier she had been nuts then but the depths of it escaped me at the time. She looked me up (all crazies look YOU up) I was recently single after being with a GF for a few years so it was a “rebound”. She seemed to have matured some and was looking good. I completely fell for it and she talked me after a couple months to get married. She literally pushed the idea endlessly and since I was in my mid 30’s never married and no kids I justified the idea as “might as well give it a shot”. She was only 21 on SSI and living in a subsidized apartment building. Got married at town hall she didn’t even care to do the vows, no ceremony. She had dated this other guy off and on for years, he has two small kids she seems to think are hers. She has a very unhealthy mindset about children. I find out after we are married she has pending court dates for taking a hammer to his car. This happened literally a day before she “looked me up”. I find this man and I have a mutual friend I give this friend a call. I find out my “wife” is a notorious whore in the town she was living in. I’m talking she is a door knob and EVERYONE willing has had a turn. I find out she has broken into his home (gone through his PC), filed fake rape charges, faked overdoses, faked pregnancy (she did this to me the first go around but claimed she miscarried after a few weeks this instantly reminded me). She cheated on this slob constantly, has had sex with 3 different men in her apartment building. After 6 weeks of “marriage” and a week after her court case with this man end (I paid her 250 dollar fine), she starts calling him from my phone while I am at work. He says “leave him”, I get call at work she says she is with “her” kids. I’m obviously less surprised then I might have been but of course it is humiliating. He uses her for about a week and kicks her out, she is back in her unfurnished apartment since we threw away all her crappy furniture because after all she was supposed to live with me lol! She stole the receipt for her Valentines present I bought her 2 weeks before she left and returns it for the 300 bucks or so it was worth. Then she calls me crying saying SSI shutoff her checks, well yes they do that when you marry someone who makes enough money to disqualify you and she says “I don’t know why this is happening to me??? I’m a good person.” Now if I had not been a mental mess filing for divorce that very day was exactly what I should have done, instead I got sucked into almost a year of nonsense. Someone called DCYS on this man, likely her since she thinks they are hers and she has told me he is Satan himself at times. She shows up yelling and screaming at my home, pounding on windows and door. I just call the police they try numerous times to simply ask her to leave she yells and screams at them about speaking to “her husband” until they finally arrest her and charge her with “criminal trespass”. I tell my victims advocate she is crazy and needs a lot of help, she is already court ordered to get. She is supposed to be on meds and see a counselor she doesn’t. She pleads out with a suspended 30 days hanging over her head. A WEEK later she is calling me sorry asking for a second chance. The entire month of March was her going back and forth on what SHE wants between me and him. I lose my job because frankly I was broken so now I am broke. April/May are more of the same she comes and goes between me and him. Then one night she calls me at 2am claiming she needs to talk, I head over (stupidly) and buzzed to be perfectly honest. I get there and it is clear she just had sex within the past 20 minutes and it was some other guy apparently. A sex offender in fact who lives across the street. I yell at her some, the downstairs neighbor calls the police they knock on the door> She flies into hysterics the police arrest me for a host of domestic charges (all dropped before my lawyer and I ever see a judge) because 2 weeks later she wants to “save” me this of course after trying to “screw” me. She goes to the PD and reverse course 180 degrees in the 3rd interview. Telling them we had sex and all sorts of different lies I’ll not go into. Then in June she gets arrested for “stalking” this other guy. They had a no contact order they both ignore but he had it in his back pocket. She got mad at his kids mom and stole her car seat and chucked it in the woods and slashed on pf his tires with a cork screw, she calls me up to brag about it like I cared. The cops are called she lies but she admits she has a on contact with this man so the very next time she calls him, he goes to the PD and she is arrested, released on bail. Two weeks after making bail she and him are still running around. I have a no contact with her with my pending case (dropped while she is in jail)with her of course and unlike her I didn’t want to have her get mad and throw me under the bus. Well he drives by her apartment one day and sees who??? The sex offender strolling outside with her, he flips out because he is married to her, right? Drives to the PD again and turns her in, they arrest her and throw her in jail for the next 3 months. Also during this time she took up as a “stripper” for a pimp who was selling her for 150 bucks an hour for sex (sex offender would sit in the other room in case it went bad). She wastes her share of the money on decorations, yard sales and TONS of Halloween crap, her trash bag mother knew she was doing it and helped her waste the money. She was not prego but bought strollers, baby clothes, bottles, cradle, car seats. A scumbag friend of hers got her to pay for her dogs vet bill and let her watch her infant son since she had all the crap at her house. The letters start arriving a few weeks after she goes inside. I was no speaking to her for a few months at this point and some of the events previously stated where unknown to me (hooker). I wrote a stingy reply but sadly I sent it to her maiden name which got it returned to sender. Instead she called and stupidity prevailed and I visited her and decided if she would take her meds, go to therapy and never speak to that guy or her scumbag friends again I’d give her a final chance. Even in jail when a letter, call or visit is precious stuff she still found ways to piss me off. The sex offender was writing her, course he was a guest at the jail so often he was not allowed to visit. I was unaware of this until the day she got released because the moron took them home with us. She was fine for 3 days, I learned she took our old cat I gave her for walks inside the baby stroller around town and planned to do it again now. I went for a walk with her and the cat to my everlasting shame. 3 DAYS after her release she starts acting cold and rude her mom picks her up and GAME OVER she went to that guys house and the sex offender house on the SAME night. The guy actually Facebook messaged me to rub it in my face because I had politely asked that he leave her alone when she gets out. She then the next night went to her “friends” house for a party. She comes by with this woman’s baby and she is supposed to be getting her stuff instead she just parks down on the bed with this baby I walked off into another room figuring she’ll get moving sooner or later. A little while later maybe 15 minutes I go back and she is topless (bra only) with this kids mouth very close to her nipple. I said “what the hell are you doing?” she stared up at me and says “just so you know I had sex with her “friends” younger brother last night”> I lost it but the baby made me maintain room voice levels and told her to get the hell out now and she started in on me and it was a minor miracle she left without it becoming something horrible. I called her friend and warned her how incredibly unwise it was to leave her alone with a baby but I suspect she didn’t care. She continued to call me for months, wrote letters and stalked me. I couldn’t afford to file for the divorce so I was hoping she’d do it since she gets all that Govt aid for free. Finally the divorce paperwork arrives June, 2013, 2 ½ years later. She requests alimony, health insurance (She has SSI insurance already) and anything else deemed “appropriate”. Our first hearing she shows up dressed up, hair done, make up, short dress I KNOW I could have had her. It was obviously a show for her to force me to deal with her after ignoring her for over a year. Once I refuse to speak to her she hops on her cell in the courthouse lobby and starts talking to numerous men and trying to score “pills”. Loud enough for me and others to hear, her intent. She says this about on prospective pill guy “He won’t sell me anything unless I get naked”. We get called in, the judge sees the short length of marriage and wants to just rubber stamp it as both parties going their own ways. I had secured a lawyer for “partial” representation just in case. She goes off saying I used to beat her, gave her a disease? And she needs money, insurance. The judge tries to setup a hearing since she can’t just make it easy, I explain I hired a lawyer for that hearing. She says when the judge asks if a date was ok “I don’t know I got court dates for other things”. We are then told we can leave she firs out of the courthouse and gets on her phone in the middle of the parking lot yelling and crying making a HUGE scene. Next hearing she showed up like a Wal-Mart shopper, meekly threw in the towel but she failed to fill all her paperwork out on purpose thankfully my lawyer along with the judge allowed us to complete it. A month later she landed in jail again for I have no idea what but she has been there for the last 6 months and counting. I imagine she is still abusing and using those around her, I never bought into mental illness before this experience.
Posted by dad on February 7th, 2014 @ 2:08pm in cape cod ma.
Ok so .. my ex WIFE is a high school art teacher. during our marriage several years ago she was accused of having an 'improper relationship" with a male student. she was diciplined but not fired. This student eventually dropped out of school, he then spent a lot of time at our house, i eventually gave him a job working for me, we raised him like a son, he even called my ex momma. Long disgusting story short they are now together and he is living in my old house with my kids. There is nothing illegal about dating your former students but YUCK AND YUCK WTF?
Posted by aguy on February 3rd, 2014 @ 11:41pm in colorado
My ex wife claimed my son was transgendered to try to get full custody of my son. She also authored emails from my email account to other dudes looking for action. I guess she thought I would run away? Four years later and a over 60k, my son has a chance of coming home to stay in April. Away from that monster for good. Ex wife's are always a pain in the ass. But when they mess with the kids it should be criminal. They grow up and when moms the perp... Watch out. America has a mom problem, what in the help happened?
Nut bag ex still on the loose!
Posted by Megan on January 22nd, 2014 @ 3:10pm in California
My boyfriend of nearly four years has an insane ex wife. She has done everything possible to destroy him. I stay out of it as long as she leaves me out of it, but it seems that is almost impossible these days. She tried to "tell" the judge to order him to pay more child support because he has a girlfriend. It didn't work, but she lied about child care and pretended to put their 2 kids in daycare and never did. He has to go back to court to lower child support due to her lying. She also stole money from him and then told the court he wasn't paying her "her" money. He set up support to come out of paychecks...she's tried to get the courts to deny visitation in every way possible. She called the cops on him because she claimed he didn't have booster seats and the cops checked and he does! She called the cops because he told her to get away from his car! The cops told her she could be fined for wasting their time. She was stalking him on face book and Instagram too. Judge did nothing. She has an open child abyse case against her too and the judge does nothing. She tells the kids how terrible he is and that I'm fat and ugly! Not either!!!!!! She tries to make kids hate him but they love us! We act normal and caring and we let them see for themselves how crazy she is. Why do ppl not see the warning signs on these nutty chicks? She needs to be put in an insane asylum. She can't hold a boyfriend either. 2 have high tailed it.
Crazy is as Crazy does
Posted by Betrayed on January 15th, 2014 @ 9:22am
Quick facts: shotgun marriage, after having known her only 3 months. All was well and good since we were both middle aged, well paid professionals. What could go wrong? Well, lots it turns out. I was husband #3, the other 2 lasting less than 2 yrs each. Of course it was their fault not hers....'they' filed for divorce. So the victim card is played early on so I'm sympathetic. Then she 'accidentally' gets pregnant with me...thats equally on me, but you'd think she'd at least express some concern not having protection. ANYway, once pregnant and married, the transformation from alluring female to spirit-sucking vampire occurs. Nothing I did was good enough. If the house was clean there was something outside that hadnt been done she criticized me for. If was afraid to ask her questions because she would feel 'disrespected' if I didnt remember something she told me 3 or 6 months ago. She isolated me from my family by protesting every time they came over. It was a major event for me to ask to have my family over. Even her relationships with her parents was always rocky and stormy. Her mother even tried to put a curse on her at one point. Her dad would refer to her as 'the nazi' to me. Years go by, and we end up with 2 more kids, as I thought once we got through the childbearing stage we could have a normal life. Nope. Not even close. She nagged me about everything. She would roll her eyes every time I wanted to talk about our relationship -- no, she said, it will make my blood pressure go up. She would deflect all of my physical intimacy advances, criticizing something about how I looked, smelled, really anything she could think of. Even the act itself on the rare occassion it happened was more a 'chore' for her. I eventually thought ok, this is all she is capable of -- an arms-length marriage. More of a business relationship. Not sustainable. She finally reached out online to some other disgruntled spouse and they became 'soulmates'. He lives halfway across the country, but they have already met in other cities while he traveled on business. And this is occurring while she has a 4-month old infant and 2 more kids under the age of 5! What kind of mother does this??? I still cant believe it. She is amped up on lust, working out, getting her hair done, flying first class to be the 'mistress'. Once again a safe relationship that doesnt need any work except chatting online and the occassional tryst. So the pattern continues, with this sucker being the next vampire victim. I so wanted to tell his wife, but I feel like they deserve each other and he will self destruct his life just as she did with hers. Plus it will make her even more crazy and since I have to play nice for the kids, I am just letting the tree fall and I'll step away......let her sink in her own quicksand. Just remember, if she seems crazy, she probably is! get out!!!
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